Thursday, January 8, 2009

MY HUSBAND HATES MY HAIR!!!!

Well it started in October of last year when we were going on vacation and I had to have a haircut!!!!!!! Anyway needless to say I got a stylist that hadnt been cutting hair for long and my hair ended up lopsided so I went back the next day after my husband complained!!! So then there were two hairstylist cutting my hair and it was worse!!!!!!UGH!!!!!! Anyhow I went on vacay with a messed up haircut so I had it cut there, it had to be cut real short so that it would even look normal! So then I let it grow out and it started looking shaggy and well I hated it! I decided to go get my haircut yesterday and just had it cut shorter, short in the back and sordof long in front so that I can give it a spikey look! I LOVE IT!!! So my husband is complaining about it now and hates it!!! Its my hair!!!! Not his! he dont have to fix it everyday! I do! he says its not attractive to him! he didnt fall in love with my hair, he fell in love with my heart I hope!!!! So there is my frustration for today! Whats your comment??????

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  1. Sounds like Jake!!! Tell him you dont like the go-T and see what he says. Tell him you love him for him not how he looks and that you are an individual and you will do as you like! lol I know like that would work, but mine complained and I cut it anyway! I feel better about myself since doing so and he sees that and no longer complains!

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  2. I totally agree!! ;) i think it will take him a couple of days!

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  3. Sorry but my husband loves long hair and I keep it long for him. It's unfortunate that you ended up short haired because of a few unexperienced stylists, but as women and as our husbands wives we are the only people in the world they are allowed to express their sexual energy to. So it's my desire to stay attractive to him. I know many women scoff at this, as their inner feminist comes out with claws, however I simply feel if my husband prefers I look a certain way I can keep it that way for him. After all... he supports my every move and is a highly educated and soft spirited man. It's my pleasure. And in return, he cares about his appearance and looks how I like. BTW... some women think short hair is easier to manage..I have had short haircuts before and personally think long hair is way easier. No gel, spiking, the constant 'grab and pull' upward to keep your style through the day, but then again my hair is fine and doesn't hold curl well or any kind of spikey style. It goes flat by 2pm.
    Realistically I also don't want him looking to other women who have the attributes I could have but refuse to have out of stubbornness, testing his 'love' for me. Like, 'if you loved me, you'd like me if I were fat assed, short haired and no make-up so I'm gonna do that and see if you still come home with your arms open and stars in your eyes'... that's just sending the message that you care more about yourself than him, and asking for trouble in my opinion. Why be jealous knowing my husband is secretly eyeing the long haired cutiepie when all I have to do is grow out my hair?

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    1. Are you Amish? Or mabe morman? Because honestly you sound like a beat down moron. Perhaps you are a kept house wife who has to do what your husband wants because you can't support yourself. Whichever the case don't give any advise again

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    2. Are you Amish? Or mabe morman? Because honestly you sound like a beat down moron. Perhaps you are a kept house wife who has to do what your husband wants because you can't support yourself. Whichever the case don't give any advise again

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  4. Totally agreed ak2nc1.. Very well said!

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  5. ak2nc1 is right, a woman should be attractive to her man and by the same logic he should make himself attractive to her. And frankly I think name calling is childish and inappropriate. If you must disagree, do so in a respective manner.

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  6. I agree, ak2nc1 is right. The marriage is about coming together as a couple. Both man and woman give up some of their indepedence when they get married. I want to grow a long beard, but I don't. I keep it shorter where my wife finds it attractive. Same with my curly hair. I had a fro when younger and loved it. I cut it because my wife wanted to see what I looked like with short hair and I know she finds it more attractive because she compliments me on it now. If I thought my wife looked like a boy I would lose all attraction to her and it'd kill the intimacy. Would your husband have even approaches you to begin with if you had a pixie cut and he thought you looked like a boy? Nope. You can't help what you are attracted to. Looking very ugly to feel good about yourself while becoming ugly to your husband and then demanding his sexual energy gets directed at you is very selfish. A girl at my work had long reddish blind hair. She looked attractive. Now she got a pixie cut the length of my hair. The women say it looks great, but I literally wondered who the new guy was. When I found out I literally thought Eeww. Guys are hardwired to be more visual in attraction. Men aren't shallow for caring about a girls appearance. It's what we are freaking hard wired by nature to be attracted to. Your husband could get along great with any number of women, but just because there is emotional connection, if there isn't any physical attraction, what makes you different to him than just any other girl that's a friend?

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